Are you experiencing Domestic Abuse?

Early signs of Domestic Abuse

Sexual Violence

  • Constant pressure “If you don’t do it, you don’t love me”
  • Blackmail
  • Degrading treatment/comments
  • Consent – Having sex with you while you’re asleep/drunk/drugged/unconscious
  • Aggression during sex (strangulation)
  • Involving other people when you don’t want to

Physical Violence

  • Pushing & Shoving
  • Spitting
  • Hair Pulling
  • Biting
  • Punching
  • Slapping
  • Strangling (including pinning down, using any force to restrict air ways)
  • Throwing things

Isolation

  • Cut you off from family and friends (Making excuses so you don’t go out “I’ve planned a date as a surprise”)
  • Using guilt “You don’t want to spend time with me”
  • Stopping you from accessing college or work “I’ll provide for you”

Controlling

  • Monitoring your movements, where you can and can’t go
  • Locking you in/out of the house
  • Checking your phone/emails/messages
  • Going everywhere with you
  • Telling you what to wear

Disrespect:

  • Persistently putting you down in front of other people
  • Refusing to help with housework or childcare

Harassment:

  • Following you
  • Not allowing you privacy (opening your mail, going through your phone)
  • Accompanying you everywhere you go

Denial

  • Blaming you for the abuse
  • Saying you “wind him up” and he can’t control his anger
  • Promising it will never happen again